Some of the most painful words for me to hear from clients and message board members are, “I give up. I’ll never be a ‘normal’ eater’” or “I’m not losing weight, so what’s the point in trying to eat ‘normally’?” These sentiments make me feel sad and helpless, close to what these people are feeling. But it’s my job—and theirs—to keep at it until they find success. What makes you feel like giving up? Here are some factors that may trigger the urge to say, “Ok, eating disorder. I surrender. You win.”

How do you develop a mindset that keeps moving you forward to “normal” eating? By engaging in healthy, positive, rational self-talk. Pay close attention to your self-talk and make sure it’s encouraging and motivating. That’s how you become a “normal” eater.