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Persistence Leads to Success

- Were one or both of your parents/caretakers persistent or did they cave without a fight or try to reach a goal, stop, resume, then give up their efforts? If you didn’t have role models who persisted in attempting to reach realistic goals, you may have a hard time doing it because you likely picked up the bad habits and patterns of your parents. If they didn’t have stick-to-itiveness, you never saw effective skills modeled.
- Did your parents/caretakers encourage you or did they leave you to struggle on your own? Sometimes parents expect too much of us yet, at the same time, don’t give us enough help, so that we feel overwhelmed and toss in the towel. Alternately, parents often jump in to finish things for us, giving us the message that we’re not doing it quickly or well enough. When they do this, it’s because they feel impatience, an inner pressure to get things done, perfection, or don’t tolerate frustration very well.
- Were you told, “You never finish what you start”? If you heard that often enough, you may have come to believe it’s true and that concept is now part of your identity, that is, you think of yourself as someone who flits from one thing to another without ever achieving completion. Moreover, if you had parents with this pattern, you make think that this is acceptable and appropriate behavior.
- Was your family so oriented toward the goal or end product that they failed to explain to you how to reach goals? You may not recognize that persistence is essential and wonder how people become successful. In short, you may lack skills.
- Were your parents such perfectionists with themselves or with you that you felt that if you couldn’t do something perfectly, or tried and failed, that you needn’t have bothered? Did they set goals for you which were out of your reach, yet criticize you when you couldn’t reach them?
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