A client did a relatively small thing differently in a friendship, which made a difference in her relationships in general and in her feelings about friends and herself. She hadn’t heard from someone in a while after having reached out to her twice. Instead of assuming her friend was angry or upset with her, or saying something hurtful in retaliation for how hurt she felt, my client approached her friend in an even, open manner. She said she wondered why she hadn’t heard from her friend after having made two attempts to connect. Her friend threw her arms around my client and swore she’d been unusually busy and wasn’t trying to avoid her. Then she asked when they could get together. My client felt proud of being appropriate and staying calm and was pleased with her friend’s response. Not a life-changing event, by any means, but progress toward a healthier way of relating to others and an opportunity to correct dysfunctional patterns and to feel proud of herself.

This interaction got me wondering how changing one thing in your life might improve how you feel about yourself and start a ripple effect. Here are some examples:

Pick one behavior to change and put your all into it. If you forget to do it, start again when you remember. Get right back on track without judgment. Change just one behavior, that’s all.