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AI’s Take on Co-dependence


Here’s a checklist devised by ChatGPT, an artificial intelligence chatbot developed by OpenAI and launched in November 2022, to help you decide if you’re co-dependent and what emotional healthy relationships look like. Thanks to my client for sending it to me!


“Distinguishing between codependent and healthy behavior can be challenging, as some behaviors may seem supportive or caring on the surface. However, there are key differences that can help you identify whether a behavior is codependent or healthy. Here are some guidelines to consider:


Codependent: Poor or nonexistent boundaries between individuals, leading to a loss of personal identity and constant involvement in each other's lives.
Healthy: Well-established boundaries that allow for individuality, personal growth, and autonomy while still maintaining a strong and supportive relationship.

Codependent: Self-worth is largely derived from the approval of others or the ability to "fix" or "rescue" someone else.
Healthy: Self-esteem is based on personal achievements, values, and self-awareness, allowing for a sense of self-worth independent of others.

Emotional expression:
Codependent: Difficulty expressing emotions honestly, often leading to passive-aggressive behavior or a tendency to suppress feelings.
Healthy: Open and honest communication of emotions, allowing for vulnerability, trust, and emotional intimacy within a relationship.

Codependent: Reliance on others for emotional or physical needs, often leading to clingy, controlling, or manipulative behavior.
Healthy: A balanced sense of interdependence, where both individuals can rely on each other for support but also maintain a sense of self-sufficiency and independence.

Codependent: A compulsion to take responsibility for others' well-being, often at the expense of personal needs and desires.
Healthy: A willingness to provide support and care for others but also recognizing the importance of self-care and respecting others' autonomy.

Relationship roles:
Codependent: Tendency to fall into rigid roles within a relationship, such as the "caretaker" or the "rescuer," which can lead to an unhealthy power dynamic.
Healthy: Flexibility in relationship roles, allowing for mutual support, growth, and shared responsibilities.

Conflict resolution:
Codependent: Avoidance of conflict or an inability to effectively resolve disagreements, leading to resentment or emotional distance.
Healthy: The ability to face conflicts directly and work together to find mutually satisfying solutions.

Personal growth:
Codependent: Suppression of personal goals, desires, or interests in favor of focusing on the needs of others.
Healthy: Pursuit of personal growth and interests, with the understanding that self-improvement contributes to the overall health of the relationship.


If you recognize codependent behaviors in yourself or your relationships, consider seeking professional help or joining a support group to address these patterns and work towards developing healthier relationship dynamics.”